Always Leave A Party When You’re Still Having Fun

September 9, 2013Rules To Live By

Rule To Live By: Always leave a party when you’re still having fun (and can remember where you are). Don’t be that guest who has one or two or three too many and goes over the line you regret the next day (hangover, the walk of shame, the need to apologize). You’re still having fun … Read More

9 Questions To Ask Your First Week: Intentional On-Boarding

September 9, 2013Career, Managing

The first step in setting up yourself for success when starting a new job, going onto a new team or getting promoted or moved into a new role, is to take charge of your own on-boarding.  Conversely managers, when bringing a person onto your team in any capacity, the first step to successful integration is … Read More

Throw Me The Chainsaw!

September 9, 2013Managing, Rules To Live By, The Juggle

The role juggle never ends – the key is to know which role you’re in at any one time – mom, boss, wife, friend, counselor, advisor, bystander, cheerleader, advocate – the list goes on. I think we get in trouble when we don’t actively choose what role to be in in the moment. When we … Read More

Busyness is Nothing to Brag About

September 4, 2013Managing, The Juggle

“Busyness” ≠ Effectiveness I challenge you to go through your day – at work, at school, at church, at a bar, in a book group – and not either say or hear “I’m so busy.” Yeah, everyone’s busy, but most aren’t effective in direct proportion to their busyness. Much like the duck paddling furiously and … Read More

Deadlines: A Primer

September 4, 2013Career, Managing

Deadlines aren’t for you, ever. Because someone else needs what you’re working on to get what they’re working on done. So with that in mind, let’s review: 1.Never EVER set Friday 5pm as the deadline. All that means is that the person you’re sending something to is going to have to stay late or work … Read More

Control What You Can Control…YOURSELF

September 4, 2013Career, Managing, Rules To Live By

We don’t control much through our day, despite everything we’ve been taught to the contrary. I don’t think I’ve ever started a day with the same to-do list (with items crossed off or not)  that I had the night before. I can’t control who will call, or who will need my help, or what the … Read More

Channel Yoda: Do or Do Not, There is No Try (The Same Thing Again)

September 4, 2013Career, Managing

Whenever I hear “I tried” I know a “but” is coming.   It’s become the preface to excuses and lame efforts with less than desirable results.  In effect “try” has come to mean so much less than its definition. “I’m trying, but…” “I tried that but….” Merriam-Webster defines the transitive verb “Try” as “to put to … Read More